Every day she seems to withdraw a little more, and I’m no longer sure she even knows I am her daughter. She now needs help with everything — even the most basic human functions.At this point, I believe she is simply existing in her body.My mother has almost forced this onto my dad who loves her too much to ever speak his mind around her since she is so emotionally fragile she will break down. He chokes on his food and has started to get reoccuring chest infections due to him aspirating it. I thought of this as a blessing because I see it as his way to leave this world in peace and finally be out of his misery.I’ve questioned her before as to why they don’t consider a home (before he was placed in the rehab last week) and she breaks down and says I don’t get to ask questions since I moved out of their house 6 years ago. He always told me he never wanted to suffer when it was his time. They even asked me to pray for him to “bounce back” which, put lightly, caused me to snap.
You are not alone in having those feelings, and many people also feel “crushed” by the caregiving experience.She is nothing more than a ZOMBIE sucking all the money out of us for no good reason she brings NOTHING to our lives but resentment and hate! My grandfather (age 83) has just been placed in a rehab facility for what appears to be the end of his life, he is not eating and forgotten how to swallow food. I am 23 and since I was 13, he has been living with my parents as they are his full time caretakers.I moved out of their house at age 17 to go to college (as my parents harshly remind me everyday that I didn’t help them care for my grandfather).As long as I can remember my parents have been feeding, bathing, brushing teeth, dressing, and moving my grandfather from place to place. He does not recognize any of us and is only responsive to music.Long story short, he has been on the decline for a very long time.I call my mom frequently to see how he’s doing and she says “great! I’ll immediately call my father and he’ll give me the honest real truth and say “he’s only got a few days.” I haven’t talked to my mother in a week because I feel like she is lying to me and not keeping me in the loop. I cared for my mum day in day out for 14 years ( Alzheimer’s) and in the last 2 years I increasingly became more angry and resentful towards her .I asked her if they would give him a feeding tube if it got to that point and she screamed at me and basically told me to stay out of it. Hi, my mother in law has vascular dementia, having had a couple of strokes a few years ago.. People keep saying what a wonderful job I did,but I know I didn’t and feel ashamed of myself for shouting at her towards the very final stages of her life.In fact, with the aid of a walker, Mummy strides up and down the halls in her care center — sometimes for hours.When she is walking the halls, Mummy often appears to have a purpose and a destination in mind. Up close, it is immediately apparent Mummy is locked into a prison from which there is no parole.While Mummy may not have major physical ailments, there is no doubt that she is suffering terrible mental anguish.Alzheimer’s has wiped away most of her brain, including her memories, personality and ability to communicate.