And even though he hoped to see her again, he did not think to remove flattering details about his other dates including top scores for appearances, and the fact he'd 'hooked up' with one of the girls at a party.Another entry reads: 'OK girl, but very jappy', And for a man who treats women so well he deems it appropriate to make a spreadsheet just to remember their names, home towns and first dates, it is perhaps unsurprising that he wrote how one stood him up, claiming a friend was in hospital.Not concerned with playing it cool, he failed to remove his thoughts on her including: 'Hope to see again soon'.Judging by her message as she forwarded the spreadsheet to her friends, it now seems unlikely.He added in the email to Arielle: 'I only deleted the non-match people's names (at the bottom) since some I've known for a long time.'He said: 'I work with spreadsheets a lot... I work long days, go to the gym, go out on a couple of midweek dates or what not, get home late... In my blog post about how to have more fun online dating, I mentioned the spreadsheet I made to help with dating. Nothing like an evening of writing formulas to get you in the mood for love!In a second page, he lists the women he has met through friends, rather than the dating website.With these women, he had the forethought to remove their identities. The girl told that Merkur was 'fidgety' when the pair met, adding: 'He got up to readjust himself a few times in the middle of our conversation, which was bizarre.
Zohar Lazar Buried in all that data were some surprising facts about how to optimize your dating profile. Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).Call it the algorithm method: Working with data crunchers at the dating sites, we put together 25 tips for writing the perfect profile, selecting the right photo, and really understanding your audience.If you’re a gay man, pose outdoors—48 percent of the profile pics of the most popular gay men on Ok Cupid were snapped outside. ) Selfies are acceptable for women (45 percent of top-ranking straight women used them, as did 4 percent of lesbians), but not so much for men.Enroll in a yoga class and learn to surf—they’re the most popular activities for men and women alike, so either desirable singles are super mellow or it’s aspirational, and everyone to be mellow.We analyzed the 1,000 most popular words on both men and women’s profiles, tabulated the most popular movies and TV shows, and crunched stats on what people consider their best feature vs.what features their potential dates are attracted to.These guys and their data teams ran queries of all kinds and pulled spreadsheet after spreadsheet of information to try and answer our strange questions.We also needed Ok Cupid to get permission from their users to enable us to publish those popular profile pics.The tips got pretty specific in some cases: It’s 28 percent better for a male to refer to females as women rather than girls, and men who use “whom” get 31 percent more contacts from the opposite sex. David Merkur, a 28-year-old investment banker from New York, used the Microsoft Excel tool to record details of each of the women's characteristics as well as progress reports on how his dates with them went.wrote to Arielle: 'Well, this could be a mistake, but what the hell... I hope this email doesn't backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon :)'Perhaps most concerning was that Merkur passed on the information without removing the girls' telephone numbers, email addresses, full names or details about their dates, such as how he scored their appearances. Just when I thought I had seen it all...'The spreadsheet was split into various categories including 'Monitor closely' and 'Monitor casually' columns.