Myth 6: Asian guys aren’t good at expressing emotions. In Asian culture, males are not encouraged to be expressive with their emotions. For example, when a boy gets hurt and starts crying, it’s not rare to see the parents scold the child for crying.Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up.
Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he’ll drink you under the table. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. With a big emphasis on “taking care” of those around you.For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.Parents educate and try to push their children to work harder and achieve more by using negative language versus complimentary language.A study conducted by China Daily interviewed a cross-section of people to see if they said “I love you” to their parents. When it comes to marriage prospects, Asian guys take into consideration the advice of his parents.It’s rare to hear traditional Asian parents say “I love you” to their children.It’s not rare for Asian kids to grow up on the receiving end of dictator-esque verbal instructions and scoldings.Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting “Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me.” Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. Sure, an Asian guy will think bubble tea is a perfectly acceptable venue for a first date. Asian guys will almost always say “Yes” to dessert as a date spot. It’s more common for a Caucasian male to independently pursue his desires without asking for anyone else’s approval. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that’s only because they like to take it slow.So in the case of this stereotype, it really depends on the person. Think crepes with fruit compote or shaved ice cream, their way of romanticizing the occasion involves making the girl happy first before letting themselves pick a place that might suit their own taste. When one gets paired with an Asian man, however, you don’t just marry the man himself but you marry his family as well. And when they do, they want to be sure that she’s the one.Whereas in the 19th century, Asian men were portrayed at the other extreme in the 19th century: sexually dangerous and desirable.The stereotype that Asian men aren’t masculine exists in a large part because of how they are portrayed in the media, not necessarily because that’s actually reflective of reality.